How ambiguously, excitingly may be perceived such a simple, pleasant and safe (in comparison, for example, with the classical contact) sexual practice as rimming, or tongue stimulation of the anus.
Many may treat this intimate procedure with disdain, viewing it as a sin from the height of their stereotypes, or with squeamishness, considering it unhygienic. Anyway, the interest in this form of sex is obvious, because someone once invented methods and techniques of rimming, protection means specifically for oral caresses and even, a kind of instruction – the rules of good rimming.
A little etymology.
So, rimming. What is it? Rimming is a kind of oral sex in which the anus is stimulated. The second name for this practice is anilingus (from Latin anus – anus + lingo – to lick; synonyms: anilingus, rimming – the English word rimming.
The tongue and the lips are involved in this intimate process, and if the fingers and sex toys are used, it is already referred to anal, and not oral sex. However, the subtleties of categorization are more interesting to sexologists; lovers can do anything they want for the sake of pleasure in intimate life, without clogging their heads with terms.
What is the right way to do rimming?
There are practically no strict rules in this practice. If there is consent and safety in the relationship, then half of the job is done, what is left is the technique, which is quite uncomplicated. The simplest and most popular movements are:
- Circular. The tongue is relaxed and the speed can vary depending on the passive partner/partner’s preference.
- With the tense tip of the tongue dipping into the hole. Not everyone likes this, so don’t forget to discuss this point beforehand. If this is the first experience for your partner, the penetration should be as slow and shallow as possible.
- Up and down movements. This technique feels especially gentle when the tongue is relaxed.
- Kissing.
- Any other movements that your partner likes.
Is Rimming Safe
If compared to other sexual practices, rimming can be called one of the safest. The main thing to keep in mind: protection to avoid sexually transmitted diseases, both partners must be sure of each other.
Be sure to use protective equipment. In sex shops they sell special latex wipes for anilingus (usually scented, for more pleasure of the active partner/partner). If you don’t want to spend too much, you can cut an ordinary condom and unroll it into a rectangle. As a last resort, an ordinary food film will do as well.
8 rules of good rimming
Wash thoroughly
Hygiene is a matter of course for the passive partner/partner. Many are anxious before their first experience and may even give up the pleasure for fear of not being clean enough. In fact, a simple external rinse with soap and water is usually enough. But if there are concerns, you can first do a small enema with warm water or use a store-bought anal shower.
2. Protect yourself
About how to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases during rimming has already been mentioned above. But it would not be superfluous to remind: do not neglect the hygienic means of protection in this juicy affair.
3. Start with a simple doggie style.
This is one of the most comfortable positions for both partners. Especially its lap-lock version, in which it is easier for the passive partner to relax and focus on his sensations. It is also convenient for the active partner, because in this position the buttocks are the least obstructing access to the anus.
In this position, you can start with caressing the genitals, and then gently rise higher. But not the other way around.
4. use lubricant
Rimming is the only anal practice in which it is sufficient to use saliva as a lubricant. Lubricant is turned to in two cases:
- The desire to give pleasure to an active partner by resorting to flavors and aromas;
- If rimming is a prelude to further anal sex.
5. experiment.
The anilingus techniques described earlier can be called basic. They can be varied in different ways.
- First, the techniques can be combined with each other. You can alternate 2-3 of these techniques, and you can use all of them.
- Secondly, each of them can be used with different intensity: light and weightless, soft and gentle, or with pressure.
- Third, do not forget about the tempo. Many operate on the principle “from slow to fast”, but in fact, in any sexual practice, it is not the main and only one, it all depends solely on the preferences of the partners. This also applies to rimming – it is quite possible to alternate a slow tempo with a fast one, and then go back to the slow one.
- Fourthly, if your partner/partner does not mind, it is possible to alternate rimming with caressing the anus with fingers and sex toys.
6. Use your hands
There are a lot of possibilities here, too. For example, you can stroke and massage the buttocks. Many people like it when the active partner runs his nails without a lot of pressure on their back from top to bottom in the process.
If the passive partner is a man, you can massage his penis or testicles. Besides, many men’s crotch, the area between the testicles and the anus, which can also be caressed with the fingers, is very sensitive.
Caressing a woman you can combine rimming with penetration of fingers or sex attributes into her vagina (if she accepts this practice). A universal option is rimming in combination with clitoral caresses, fingers or a vibrator.
7. Don’t switch to oral sex
Remember not to switch to oral caressing of the genitals after anilingus. The fact is that the intestinal microflora contains bacteria that, if exposed to the genitals, can lead to irritation and the development of inflammatory diseases, especially in women. Three ways to avoid this:
- Use protective equipment;
- Refuse oral sex after anilingus;
- Rinse your mouth well with water.
This also applies to any other practice with the anus – nothing that has come into contact with it should come into contact with the genitals immediately afterwards.
8. Don’t worry if you don’t like it
Don’t engage in self-criticism is a universal rule for all sexual practices. Don’t sacralize sex and label yourself if you don’t like something.
This does not mean that you are not sexy enough: as in any other activity, in intimate practices there are things that are available and acceptable to you, and there are things that go against your ideas of beauty, and this is considered normal, the main thing in love – the reciprocity of preferences.
The same goes for your partner. If he or she doesn’t like doing what you’re asking, you shouldn’t be pressured or offended. It just means that you have a fascinating road ahead of you in the search for something that will please both of you.
As you can see, there is nothing scary or shameful about rimming. With hygiene, anilingus is considered caressing another area of the body. If there is love and trust in the relationship, this practice will bring the partners closer and loosen them up.